Black Woman: Why are you so ANGRY??

To whom it may concern:
Lets put this on a table and spread it out, to really examine it. I am an African American woman, descending from slave-traded Africans of course, Caucasians from Ireland, Canada, and Virginia, Chickasaw and Blackfoot Native Americans and Dominicans from the D.Rep. NOW, I can safely say regardless of this melted pot of genes, I am a black person. As a black person, I have noticed that the media tends to draw the strangest conclusions about us, as if we are somehow different from any other race of human beings on this earth. We all know about our recent history, and being considered less than a human being. Later, when people found their common sense and brain cells; we discovered the "reasoning behind human slavery" to be just a band-aid for the collective mental fears of a very sick and inhumane crop of people. Glad they're dead. Moving on...

Next we have the disease factor. Somehow the media tends to come up with us being the majority for EVERYTHING there is to have. Sickle cell, AIDS, Leukemia... you name it, black is the worst thing to be ( altho if you were to ask a real physician, who happens to have the statistics in front of him, he'd say that black people are a minority. Using math you'd realize that OF COURSE our percentages would be higher than the majority. We have less people. 30 people out of 100 is going to be a higher percentage than 30 people out of 300. Duh. Doesn't get reported that way though.) FASCINATING how no other minor race ( if you don't count Hispanics) is highlighted so negatively! Funny how there are no billboards with the headcount of herpes with Indians or Caucasians! I don't really have space here for my opinion about the "Statistics" but really? Billboards??! I'm supposed to drive by that and NOT feel like the scum of the earth, even though, having lived in 3 states and knowing a lot of freaking people, I don't know ANYONE with any of the aforementioned diseases... somehow its supposed to be 1 out of 3 have AIDS.. riight! Thanks media!

Then we have the whole self esteem thing, where the media tells us and every other living thing, that in order to be beautiful you have to look as non-black, or as racially ambiguous as possible. Therefore - black and African features = ugly. Great. Thanks. Disregard the fact that lots of black people ( and other races) tend to believe that there are PLENTY of beautiful things about African features... And lets just throw out the window, the idea that most BLACKs in the US are not 100% African ( how'd that happen if we're so ugly? hmm), and therefore have blended features anyway... but lets not go to far into that. That's another blog, and I'm getting off my topic.

What I'm getting at, here, is the media's constant flogging of the black WOMAN. Not only does she endure public shame and ridicule about her hair ( relaxer commercials and Chris Rocks less-than-helpful "Good Hair" movie) her skin tone ( skin bleaching and camera lighting that stars agonize over to make themselves appear lighter) and her weight - its not enough. Then she has to be humiliated when she's pregnant and young-looking, because she MUST be unmarried and the father MUST be in jail or a deadbeat, or at least that's what the movies, TV and media tell us. Her children aren't good enough unless they have "good hair" or "fair skin" and they're all going to have ADD or be Crack babies... no wait! CLEARLY there's more!

Now, I'm hearing on the radio ( because I dont watch TV...wanna know why? lol) that there was a real story run on Dateline- news, not a talk show - about how even if the black woman is beautiful, successful and somehow cleared all the hurdles above - she STILL cant get a man. She's unmarried. Well Why the hell is that, you may ask? Read the damn blog again. I'll wait.

Its amazing that we push forward. Its a miracle we haven't given up. This is not a pity party by any means. Its a reality check for any person who doesn't see the beauty IN the strength and stamina of the black woman.

I know why a successful, beautiful black woman may not have a man; because I AM one. I don't WANT any old man, first of all. I am not JUST picky, I reserve the right to be selective because I DESERVE IT! I am way too many wonderful things, drizzled in awesomeness not to at least LOOK for someone who is compatible and deserving of said awesome-cornucopia that makes me me. And any other woman, regardless of her race, should be ashamed if they dont think highly enough of themselves to do the same! (Suicide and Domestic violence rates of "happy" married women.. hmmm? )
This type "A" black woman ALSO tends to choose men outside her race too, something that the non-black woman on the show neglected to mention. It may be that we have to compete with the jail system, poor upbringing due to brainwashing, and other issues that our black brothers may be struggling with, but I wonder is it simply an oversight that it was not mentioned that Type A has NO problem with landing herself a man outside her race? I just mainly have a problem with the media painting it so that it seems there is something wrong with black women, and that we are ALL just undesirable. That, honey, is not true. Let me assure you, statistics be damned, we have enough non-blacks in this country alone, that for every crack-headed, whore-mongering, welfare receiving, nagging, uneducated, loud mouthed ghetto black woman - I PROMISE you, there are three more that are non-black! Hey Dateline, lets have a show about THOSE heifers. -BUT ALSO for every undesirable black woman, there's at least one black woman that is successful, has climbed out of the nasty world of barriers and statistics, and is out there doing the damn thing...because she CHOOSES to wait for MR. Right, and doesn't dare settle for Mr. "Be happy you got a man".
HMPH!